By Cassandra D
My husband and I watched the season finale of "Big Love" last night, a show we began watching primarily because it's after "The Sopranos." For the HBO-less among you, it is a show about a polygamous family, with one husband, three wives, and a bunch of kids, trying to live a happy and successful life in Utah without having their lifestyle discovered. It took a little bit, but we became hooked on watching it. I had never before thought much about polygamy, but after watching the show and giving it some thought, I'm now wondering this:
What's the big deal about polygamy?
I figure married men have been having affairs and fathering illegitimate children for, well, forever, and they aren't breaking the written law of the land. If consenting adults want to make a life-long commitment to each other and to their children, isn't that better?
You can make the argument that it is better for children to be in a standard two-parent household, but you can also argue that the standard model often doesn't work. Divorce, domestic violence, adultery, child abuse... Traditional families are certainly not immune. And even if you don't like polygamy, should it really be illegal? How about just not legally recognized? Wouldn't that be a good enough way for society to refrain from supporting it?